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Creating A Stress-Free Environment At Home

One of the first things to do, when you want to remove stress from your life, is to create a healing environment at home. It is a well-known fact that stress affects both your physical and emotional well-being. So, to feel your best, you need to remove the negativity associated with the stress. In most cases, the negativity is something that has been there a while, and you have built up a tolerance or conditioned response to it.  The good news is… it’s not as difficult as you may think to make a change. Keep reading to learn more.

Let’s face it, a healthy environment makes you feel safe and helps to eliminate feelings of sadness, worry and helplessness. It is void of noise and confusion, which, over the long term, can lead to a long list of health problems.  You may not be able to control all of the environments you encounter every day, but it is critical that you learn how to manage your own personal environment.  The place where you lay your head, or take a bath.  Consider the following tips to help you get started.

The Effects of Stress

There are good reasons to avoid stress.  Studies show that depression and chronic stress accelerates aging, see the study here.

Researchers also found that healthy adults who were mistreated as children may have a higher inflammatory response to new stressors. See the study in Neuropsychoparmacology, published online 29 September 2010.

Research has also found that stress-activating factors can turn on certain genes that were supposed to be silenced.  The findings show that the protective complexes are lost, and selected genes turn on when cells are exposed to external stress factors. See the study here.

Now that you are clear on the importance of managing stress.

Let’s talk specifics.

Your Overall Goal

Your overall goal is to create a nurturing (and therapeutic) space, filled things you love, or fulfills you or gives you great memories or thoughts. Doing so promotes spiritual growth and self-healing. Ideally, this works best if you have space that you can also use as your own special haven. This is a matter of  simply create multiple “mini spaces” throughout your home.

Eliminate Clutter

Have you ever tried to completely relax in a room full of clutter? It’s almost impossible to do, isn’t it? Get rid of things you no longer use. Give these things to charity or have a garage sale. The rule of thumb is:  if you are legally required to keep it, and if it doesn’t bring you joy, then get rid of it!

Utilize Color

Certain colors affect the way you feel. So if you can, you might consider repainting your space. You can either go with a color that automatically makes you happy or choose one known to invoke a positive response. Be aware that the color red typically causes an invigorating, energetic or agitating reaction and whereas blue has the (opposite) calming effect.

More Ideas

There are so many additional things that you can do to create a healing environment in your home. They include:

  • candles or a fireplace
  • aromatherapy (lavender is particularly calming)
  • water fountain or aquarium
  • live plants and flowers (many have air purifying benefits)
  • healing stones and crystals
  • natural  lighting options
  • family photos
  • writing and journaling tools

Quite honestly, the possibilities are endless. If you find it relaxing to read a good book, think about creating a reading corner. On the other hand, if you love to fix things, the ideal healing environment might be a workspace in the garage. The choice is up to you!

Now that you know more about creating a healthy environment at home, what are you waiting for? Remember, you don’t have to complete the project overnight. The idea is to reduce stress, and bring out more healing vibes. This is something that can be done on an ongoing basis. There’s nothing wrong with creating a relaxing environment that is a “work in progress.” I’ve gone from relaxing work spaces to an outright yoga room.

I’ll be offering a course within the next month about cleansing and de-stressing your home. Stay tuned and sign up for the newsletter to be alerted when it launches.

In love and health!



Overcoming Heart Trauma – Part I

It wasn’t the best time for a crisis to come, but they never come when we are ready.

My daughter, the independent diva, who had her own place, made good money, and took care of her own business sheepishly admitted that she was pregnant and that because of the birth control methods she used, she wasn’t really sure when she became pregnant; and she didn’t know anything about what she is headed into. Shocked by her news, I wasn’t ready to be a grandmother, but that I also knew that wasn’t really the point.

Being a doula who has delivered over twenty babies myself with no major complications, I had to think back to my old training.

Still, I wasn’t ready.

I was just finalizing a complicated divorce and my ex and were both trying to navigate the closing up of a twenty-year relationship. There were more lose ends than a shaggy carpet.

The other issues didn’t matter. We all had to figure out what to do with a new baby who was on her way whether we were ready or not.

My adult daughter moved in with me and things were never not like they were before she was an adult.  Nothing was really the same again.

Thank God I was anchored by a good spiritual connection.  I was active in church and had many people praying for my daughter and her unborn baby.  My daughter wasn’t into church, but she  was scared about all of the unknowns of pregnancy.  She was smart enough to trust her mom and knew that I would do what I could to help her through this.

Again, that wasn’t the point.  The point was a new baby was on the way to us and we needed to get ready.

Since I had been a doula for over 15 years, and had all natural or as close to natural as possible births, I wasn’t really nervous about my abilities.

But sometimes, you don’t know what you don’t know.

This was certainly the case here.

What happened with her arrival tilted the world on a new axis and changed everything from our daily priorities to the way we interacted with each other, on every level.

The most important thing we learned was about how a crisis can either be a curse or a blessing, and how each day gives us a chance to choose which perspective we will hold.

I learned the valuable lesson about  how no matter how much we don’t want the responsibility, moms carry the emotional load by example for everyone in the family. Even the so called “estranged” family members are under her influence.

I knew that if I broke down, everyone else would break down; and if I were strong, everyone else would be strong. This was a life or death crisis.

Damn. What a trickbag.


Part II to be continued in three days…